If you are an average looking girl, a boy from your class or neighbour, will appreciate you a lot. The dictionaries of human relations call it ‘flattery’, artifical praise. If the boy is smart in talking he will pass innocent coments with a mishceivious flavour to draw your attention. In the world of cheaters it is called ‘flirting’. Millions of girls across the world , have slipped into these pits and found it difficlut to come out . They discover that those roses were thorns in disguise.
Why should you fall in love? What will you get after exchanging your heart in return of pain?
In seclusion, as well in crowd, you will be living with sighs like a crazy insane. You will feel lonely even in a gathering, just thinking about him. Trodding on such dreamy paths , you rarely reach your dream palace. A Broken heart, a shattered dream, a feeling of betrayal, and self condemnation as an award for your folly await for you.
How many expectaions from him ! How many late nights ! How many long waits poking tireless messages ! It will be too late when you realise that these walls are not of bricks but sands and can crumble even with a puff.
Then one day he will say ” Pardon me ! I will pray for you that you get a better boy than me. You see my Mom is not agreeing to our relations and I cannot disobey my mother because it is a sin ” Your dream castle was made up of sand. It will be like someone has pushed you down into a lonely valley with nobody to share your agony. One day you may discover that he is into another affair. You are replaced by another prettier girl. Now you will look into the mirror and aks your self ” was I really as beautiful as he praised me earlier?” The reply of your mirror will give you an extreme inferiority complex about your looks.
The pain of heart cannot be understood by others around you. No thermometers can give you the temperature nor can any cardiology test can inform the world what pain a broken heart undergoes. When the next spring arrives, it will bring nostalgia and only warm tears, wasting your time, wasting your life in memories of your EX-DEAR.
You may call him ungrateful, untrustworthy and curse him for days but weren’t you ungrateful and untrustworthy when you quitely slipped out with him without your parent’s approval or knowledge, and they kept on thinking that your are extremly modest. Were you not wrong when you secretly messaged him romantic messages and remained busy chatting with him when your poor mother needed you in domestic help?
Dont forget that every one cannot get the Moon but if you observe self restrain then Allah may give you soon. If you love the world for your beloved then you may loose your akhera. But if You love Sabr over sins then it is the promise of Allah that you cherish. The choice is yours.. Remember ” Allah intends easiness upon you, He does not intend to put you into difficulties..( Surah al Baqarah verse 185 )
Nisaar Nadiadwala can be responded at nisaar_yusuf@yahoo.com
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