Facebook, shaping our lives!

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Facebook has proved itself to be one of best Psychologist. It not only helps you analyze people in our friend lists, but provide detailed account of someone’s life. All of what we like, what we share, what we speak depicts our mentality and our lifestyles. And I am sure, we don’t want everyone to know everything about us. That is the reason there are some things that are private and some public. 

FB has enabled people to come and create a virtual personality, which indeed is a reflection of their actual personality. A virtual world that they want other people to see of them, showing that they are very happy all the time (or very sad in some casese), enjoying (or hating) the life. All those things that YOU want others to know.  

 Once our private life was considered private, FB has facilitated people to show their private pictures, memories, likes, dislikes, places you visit, resturant you dine in, friends you have, hobbies you have, to be shared with all those who are interested and all those who are not. Once you upload anything on FB, it has indeed been made public by yourself and you cannot expect people to not judge you because of that. Everything you do, everything you don’t, does leave an impact on people, so choose wisely. In the real world, we think atleast 10 times before speaking, but in the virtual world we just “share”!

To my experience, FB is the most extensively used, attention seeking tool in this world. You had an icecreamwho cares? You visit that new cafe in town! Who wants to know that? You are listening to some song! Listen, we are not interested. You are sad and alone? Go and sit with your family, you won’t be anymore insha’AllahWallahi, such posts are pretty annoying and I think intelligent people don’t behave like that. Intelligent people should widden their center of influence by working on people around them instead of sharing useless (not all), fake (not all) and annoying things  (not all) on FB, wasting time, making fool of yourself. 

Anyhow, there are always good and bad aspects of everything. We should focus on the good but shouldn’t entirely ignore the bad ones. FB is an extremely powerful tool. Don’t let it shape your lives! Choose wisely!

 

 

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The “awesomest” Eid day!! :D

Bismillah,

Asalam o alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh!

Eid ul Fitr is the day of globalized celebrations among Muslims. Everyone have been fasting the whole month of Ramadhan with Allah‘s Blessings and that is why eating and drinking become the most favourite act of all Muslims on this Eid. 😀 We all visit our families, go meet friends and their is a lot of joy and excitement all over. The other day, me and my friends were invited for the Eid Transmission telecast recording at the amazing Pegham TV studios and we discussed many trivial matters. Even when Eid is an occasion of joy and happiness, a lot of young people (like me) get bored when visiting relatives and there is no fun, no entertainment in there and everyone wants to go back to the normal routine as soon as possible.

The brainstorming between us friends and the Pegham TV team generated a lot of ideas ranging from causes to cures. Criticism revealed that in order to enjoy, we try to make our own ways of entertainment that are not very much coherent with Islam. While discussing, everyone unanimously agreed on the concept of “Halal entertainment” and how it can be incorporated in our daily life.

“Halal” Entertainment? Are you kidding me?

Well, certainly not. Man is a social animal and he needs entertainment. I guess that is exactly why Eid (literally, celebration) is there for. We Muslims just need to find proper ways to it. Halal entertainment refers to alllllllll that stuff you do within the bounds of Islam and what it allows. I mean, just look at these 10 awesome ways to get entertained in the “Halal” way. Just read on to get some awesome ones specifically for the Eid day insha’Allah.

While searching for the content to write this article, I browsed on websites that were made by Masajids. I was so amazed how they’ve turned Masajids into community centers and all kinds of stuff is present there. They are well ecquiped with latest technology, projectors, table tennis, basket ball courts, cafeterias, lounges and the adoreable prayer halls. Their Masajids are not just used for five time prayer but it is their central hub, their town hall. The imams are educated in the affairs of the religion, keeping the guidelines of shariah strict while providing every possible way to productive halal entertainment.

Youth Club in Pakistan is working on similar lines. They have active Lahore and Islamabad Chapters Masha’Allah they have some awesome projects. Just look at their facebook album to feel the activism, education and brotherhood Alhamdulillah.

How do they make Halal entertainment  “Productive”?

The Masajids have many projects running at a time. They’ve got all kind of sports tournament going on for those who are sporty. While they play football, cricket or any other game, they know when is the time for prayer, how not to fight with one another, how to work in a team, how to conform with the teachings of Islam in our game. NO CHEATING, you know.

They have food distribution projects going on where group of friends are arranging food, others are managing poor families  who have come to collect food packages for them.

They have competitions like qirat and azaan for all those whom Allah SWT have blessed with a beautiful voice. They don’t sing songs, they recite Qur’an. They don’t know eminem, U2 and  Nirvana but they know Shatri, Sa’ud ash-Shuraim and Mishari al fasi. Listen to this recitation and have a feel of it.

For sisters, they have the same activities maintaining the best possible Hijab, where everything is managed by young girls and at on the other side its young boys and this is what I liked. No intermixing, no intergender communication. Beautifully managed. While the brothers handle outside affairs, sisters handle inside affairs. Sticking to their circle of influence, Alhamdulillah. Like Allah SWT has pointed out in Surah Al-Layl number 92, ayah 1-4:

وَاللَّيْلِ إِذَا يَغْشَىٰ
By the night as it envelops;

وَالنَّهَارِ إِذَا تَجَلَّىٰ
And by the day as it appears in brightness;

وَمَا خَلَقَ الذَّكَرَ وَالْأُنثَىٰ
And by Him Who created male and female;

إِنَّ سَعْيَكُمْ لَشَتَّىٰ
Certainly, your efforts and deeds are diverse (different in aims and purposes);

I want “Halal”, “Productive” entertainment for the Eid too. What should I do?

I am sure you have a lot of  ideas now but here is a small list that I have compiled with the entertainment/productivity factor explained:

Brothers:

  • Arrange a flood light outdoor game among the family members on Eid. Invite all family members and make sure you have good size teams (better put oldies in one and the young ones in the other to increase the X-factor :D). Youth complains a lot about generation gap, this would help both sides to minimize it.
  • On the joyful occasion of Eid, don’t forget your poor brothers and sisters. Take fruits, food, medicine, clothes or anything that you can afford to the nearby slum with your family and pay them a visit. Distribute things. Observe their living condition. It will melt your heart. Try to do something for them. You’ll feel elevated in your own sight. 
  • Replace mix gender gatherings with proper gender segregation holding small reflections on Ramadhan, their activities, projects done as well as future plans, and ideas on how to make our Ramadhan and Eid productive and useful for not only us but for the society we live in. Imagine you all are sitting in the drawing room discussing some awesome tips from parents, uncles, kids and all. You’ll see how this discussion is not just fruitfull but also synergistic.
  • Take a picnic trip to the biggest and most beautiful mosque of the city at any comfortable salat time (probably maghrib because it is offered aloud). Sit with your family in the masjid. Take your mothers and sisters with you. Let them feel the joy of salat in jamaah‘ (if there is a separate place for ladies to participate in the jamaah‘. The sisters must not be a trial for brothers on the very first day Shaytan is released). Let your females come out of the stress of work at home, their kitchen and their kids.

Sisters:

  • Go with your fathers, brothers and sons on Eid ul Fitr prayer. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) commanded us to bring them (women) out on (Eid) al-Fitr and (Eid) al-Adha, and to bring out adolescent girls, menstruating women and virgins, but the menstruating women were to stay away from the prayer, but were to witness goodness and the gathering of the Muslims. I said: “O Messenger of Allaah, what if one of us does not have a jilbaab?” He said: “Let her sister lend her a jilbab.” [Al-Bukhaari (324) and Muslim (890) narrated by Umm ‘Atiyyah RA]
  • Cook your favourite dish with the help of an expert (your mom, obviously :P). Cooking, urgh, its so boring, right?. That is why it shouldn’t end here.  *evil grins* Ask everyone who visits your house to taste especially the aunties and ask them to give you extra EIDI if they like it. You know, you’ve got to market your dish a little. 😛 Don’t forget to make it look good. You are awesome to do this sister, I am sure. Take some decoration tips from here.
  • Get all your sisters and cousins together to decorate your house for Eid. Make this Eid a little more special. In return, you may gift them a smal hina (mehndi) packet or you might help them with applying it decorating their lovely hands 🙂
  • Let them talk. 😀 They absolutely love it.

With this it comes to an end. I wish all my Muslims brothers and sisters a very very happy, productive and entertaining Eid ul Fitr. May Allah SWT make you, me and all our brothers and sisters among His pious slaves and bless us with the best of this world as well as of the Hereafter.

تقبل اللہ منا و منکم

Your brother in Islam,

Zaki

The writer majors in Software Engineering and is an amateur blogger and photographer. He may be contacted at zakiimtiaz1@gmail.com. The pictures have been taken from google, International Ramadan Photography competition 2012 and Youth Club Lahore.

“The seed that we planted in this man’s mind may change everything” – Cobb: [2010 Movie: INCEPTION] – Part 1

How many of you have watched the movie “Inception”. Leanardo Di Caprio? Remember? Yeah, its great. Great story, greater action and the best thing is the concept. Planting ideas to steal information from the people’s mind. Dangerously wow.

Mind techniques have always been a turn on for everyone when I was a child. We used to learn small tricks for judging what number are you thinking, what is the count of things in your hand etcetera. I never believed such things can actually happen in real life. It was merely judging, careful mathematical calculations and nothing more. Extracting information from another mind wasn’t real at all. Infact, I consider my mind as the most secret closet for storing information, data and emotions that I don’t want to share with anyone. It would pose a direct threat to the privacy of, not only my own mind but, also to the minds of people around me.

The first time I watched Inception, it stuck my mind so badly that I couldn’t do anything but to think and ponder over its concept.

“How is it possible?”

“Can we really plant ideas into people’s mind?”

“Can we really get to know what we want from other person’s mind?”

“Will I get to know what other people are thinking?”.

I didn’t believed in it completely however I do realize the magnitude of planting ideas into people’s mind and how can it serve us. Just imagine, you want someone to think the way you are thinking, about the things you are thinking, planting your ideas into their minds. Do you imagine what you can do with it?

“How does this concept of planting ideas in people’s mind effects me?”

How does it effects you? Well, someone might be around planting his ideas in your mind, telling you what to do. You probably will be mind controlled via proxy. You won’t even realize that you are being manipulated and you’ll own the ideas yourself. It doesn’t matter if the idea is small or big. No idea is small when I see the magnitude of its impact. You’ll be carrying other people’s ideas and not your own. You’ll be living other people’s life and not your own. You’ll be serving other people’s agenda and not your own.

It is dangerous.

Yes, it is.

Questions that can be asked are

  • How is this inception done?
  • What are the different ways to do it?
  • How can I know I am being incepted?
  • HOW CAN I DO INCEPTION (evil grins) ?

I had struggled a lot to find an answer

and it was

________

(to be continued).

“Dreams feel real while we’re in them. It’s only when we wake up that we realize something was actually strange”
– Cobb – From the movie Inception, 2010

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One of the key things for YOU to become a LEADER..

People, when in difficult situations, are confused and small factors de-motivates them. This is pure human psychology. A problem that persists in our society is that everyone who is more knowledgeable, better position holder, better in grades, wealthier, has better status  wants to dominate the other by asking/telling them things that de-motivate them. This happens everywhere; at institutes, workplaces, market places, religious places and everywhere else.

“Hey, do you know this?” “Do you know that?” “No! You don’t do this? You are such a waste”. “If you can’t do that, you can’t do anything.”

Stop for a moment and analyse the situation if you were they and someone comes and tell you the same things. How angry would you be. “I am trying so hard to get it done and this **** and **** and **** is telling me all this. “

In that situation, all they want from you is to motivate them by telling them that whatever you are doing, you are doing great, keep it up.

And if you think there is a room for improvement, look for appropriate time to correct them (in private AND NOT PUBLIC BASHING). Deliver them your advice as a favour and NOT AS A COMMAND. Let them come to the conclusion, dont force them to what exactly you want. And if they don’t accept it, don’t feel offended. After all, its none of your business. They’ll lose the deal and realize it. They won’t lose it the next time (they’ll take your advice then)

They’d love to take your advide and they’d love to follow you.

So, key things:

1. Dont bash

2. Motivate

3. Advice mildly

and be their Leader.