19 amazing fatherhood lessons for YOU!

As Muslims we often hear the virtues of being a mother and the benefits that kids bring to them. While discussing it, fatherhood is often ignored and motherhood is what is emphasized. So, I decided to compile a list of some lessons that I’ve learnt of fatherhood that children bring with them. All the fathers-to-be and new fathers will find it beneficial insha’Allah and should try to fill in the necessary gaps proactively for the better future of their children!

So once you’re a father, you’ll find the following things happenings:

  1. Your love for your spouse has deepened
  2. You have to take responsibility of not only your own action but also your family’s
  3. You have to choose baby’s sleep time to get some rest. He is too small to follow your routine
  4. Even if you start following your infant’s sleep cycle, you have to strive hard to get a better sleep 😛
  5. Now you starts feeling older 
  6. You have multiple jobs now. One that is outside your house, earning money for the family, and the other with your cute little angel at home
  7. The unique feeling you get when your baby looks at you and smiles
  8. You realize the hardship that your parents have gone through, skipped sleep, enjoyed cramps in their biceps carrying you at nights for sleep, declining all the fun with friends because they were busy with you.
  9. Time passes too quickly. You angel’s birth feels moments ago
  10. Technically, you have lesser time to spend with you spouse, but quality of that time is increased Alhamdulillah
  11. Most of the time you’re busy in nurturing your kid, either physically, or spiritually by talking to your wife about his upbringing, values and character
  12. You are future oriented. You think proactively
  13. You are planning your child’s schooling according to Islamic values and planning for him to become a Hafiz and Qaari of Al-Furqan (the differentiator between the right and the wrong, another name of Qur’an)
  14. You start seeing life as an opportunity to shape up a human being, to inspire a complete nation (through his progeny) to become Allah’s slave and you and your wife becoming the leaders of Muttaqoon yourself
  15. You find it difficult to manage your relationship with your wife, why because now she has two babies to handle, you and your baby! She’s fragile so handle with care 😉
  16. Your wife loves you even more, for helping her out in the baby chores, makes du’aa for you, and prays for you to stay with him till the end
  17. All your childish, immature and irresponsible behavior is gone. You have to be a DAD now and you need to be responsible. Expect your kid to be exactly like you
  18. You are more concerned about savings now, because living in an expensive era, its important when it comes to good education and Islamic nurturing of your kids
  19. Now you‘re remembering Allah SWT and his commandments more. You have a journey to walk with you family. Your journey back to home, to Jannah!

Alhamdulillah I have found my experience to be life changing. Do you find yours? Please share more lessons with me so that I can learn even more 🙂



The writer is a software engineer and can be contacted at zakiimtiaz1@gmail.com


Dare to love like that!!!! – Br. Abdullah Intekhab

What’s SO wrong with our people that we’re SOOO dependent on other ideologies for our day-to-day lives. We need “a” day to show love to our loved ones; we need “a” day to show love to our mothers… cuz if we miss “Mother’s day” then lo behold all hell will break lose and I can’t show my mother that I love her for the remaining 364 days of the year.

I won’t even say that these things are “Un-Islamic” because that’s what our people have the biggest problem with: “now that everyone’s calling it un-islamic it MUST be cool.”
These things are simply IDIOTIC!

And just like EVERY other societal issue, these idiosyncrasies HAVE to leave our society so that we can with confidence (once and for all) say that man has NOT infact evolved from Baboons! (cuz right now that’s how we act: monkey see money do)

If you want to love; here’s how a MAN loves:

The Prophet (s.a.w.) said: ”When a husband and wife look at each other with love, Allah looks at both with Mercy”
[Bukhari 6:19 & Tirmidhi 14:79]

Once the Prophet (salAllahu alaihi wassalam) was sitting with Amaa Aisha (radhiAllahu anha) and fixing his shoes. It was very warm, and Aisha (radhiAllahu anha) looked at his blessed forehead and noticed that there were beads of sweat on it. She became overwhelmed by the majesty of that sight. She was staring at him long enough for him to notice. He said, “What’s the matter?”

She replied, “If Abu Bukair Al Huthali, the poet, saw you, he would know that his poem was written for you.”
The Prophet (salAllahu alaihi wassalam) asked, “What did he say?”

She replied, “Abu Bukair said that if you looked to the majesty of the moon, it twinkles and lights up the world for everybody to see.”

So the Prophet (salAllahu alaihi wassalam) got up, walked to Aisha, kissed her between the eyes, and said, “Wallahi (By Allah) ya Aisha, you are like that to me and more.”

Wallahi, THIS is love and nothing else and we as Muslims love the whole year round, Allah hu Akbar!