19 amazing fatherhood lessons for YOU!

As Muslims we often hear the virtues of being a mother and the benefits that kids bring to them. While discussing it, fatherhood is often ignored and motherhood is what is emphasized. So, I decided to compile a list of some lessons that I’ve learnt of fatherhood that children bring with them. All the fathers-to-be and new fathers will find it beneficial insha’Allah and should try to fill in the necessary gaps proactively for the better future of their children!

So once you’re a father, you’ll find the following things happenings:

  1. Your love for your spouse has deepened
  2. You have to take responsibility of not only your own action but also your family’s
  3. You have to choose baby’s sleep time to get some rest. He is too small to follow your routine
  4. Even if you start following your infant’s sleep cycle, you have to strive hard to get a better sleep 😛
  5. Now you starts feeling older 
  6. You have multiple jobs now. One that is outside your house, earning money for the family, and the other with your cute little angel at home
  7. The unique feeling you get when your baby looks at you and smiles
  8. You realize the hardship that your parents have gone through, skipped sleep, enjoyed cramps in their biceps carrying you at nights for sleep, declining all the fun with friends because they were busy with you.
  9. Time passes too quickly. You angel’s birth feels moments ago
  10. Technically, you have lesser time to spend with you spouse, but quality of that time is increased Alhamdulillah
  11. Most of the time you’re busy in nurturing your kid, either physically, or spiritually by talking to your wife about his upbringing, values and character
  12. You are future oriented. You think proactively
  13. You are planning your child’s schooling according to Islamic values and planning for him to become a Hafiz and Qaari of Al-Furqan (the differentiator between the right and the wrong, another name of Qur’an)
  14. You start seeing life as an opportunity to shape up a human being, to inspire a complete nation (through his progeny) to become Allah’s slave and you and your wife becoming the leaders of Muttaqoon yourself
  15. You find it difficult to manage your relationship with your wife, why because now she has two babies to handle, you and your baby! She’s fragile so handle with care 😉
  16. Your wife loves you even more, for helping her out in the baby chores, makes du’aa for you, and prays for you to stay with him till the end
  17. All your childish, immature and irresponsible behavior is gone. You have to be a DAD now and you need to be responsible. Expect your kid to be exactly like you
  18. You are more concerned about savings now, because living in an expensive era, its important when it comes to good education and Islamic nurturing of your kids
  19. Now you‘re remembering Allah SWT and his commandments more. You have a journey to walk with you family. Your journey back to home, to Jannah!

Alhamdulillah I have found my experience to be life changing. Do you find yours? Please share more lessons with me so that I can learn even more 🙂

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The writer is a software engineer and can be contacted at zakiimtiaz1@gmail.com

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Upper hand is better than the lower hand – Ramadhan Food Project 2013

Alhamdulillah, by the Grace of Allah Subhanahuwataalah, Youth Club Lahore took part in three social projects in 2012, namely:

       Ramadhan Food Project

       Clothes Distribution in sponsorship of Young Muslimah Project KSA

       Dhul Hijjah Qurbani and Food distribution

Ramadhan Food Project
In the early days of Ramadan, the YCL team purchased various food items and commodities including rice, sugar, pulses, dates, tea leaves, etc., from the supermarket ‘Metro’ in Model Town, Lahore, and collected sacks of flour from a charitable lady in Mustafa Town, before setting off for Kasur where the deserving families resided.

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The selection of the target homes was made after scrutiny; people who were needy yet did not resort to begging. Their living standards were extremely deplorable. Families had very few supplies to help them last the month. Their houses usually had a single stove in an open-air kitchen, the only place where they could cook food, and only fortunate families had a hand pump to provide them with water.

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Alhamdulillah, the supplies were distributed and those families were sustained throughout Ramadan.A total sum of around PKR 200,000 was spent in this project, and by the Grace of the Almighty it was a success, helping bring smiles to the faces of people who had probably not eaten to their fill for a long time.

See more pictures on the YCL page here: https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.410494059000045.85692.239400962776023&type=3

Clothes Distribution in sponsorship of Young Muslimah Project KSA
In association with The Young Muslimah Project, Youth Club distributed over 500 clothes to people from the areas affected by floods.

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The team traveled across 1250 kilometers, to Sindh and Balochistan, giving out clothes.

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Their houses were totally wrecked by the floods, and they had to live under the open sky with hardly any provisions to sustain them.

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Alhamdulillah these donations were given out to the right people.

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Impact Analysis:

 

 

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Our humble request

This year Youth Club Lahore team has targeted over 75 poor families within Lahore, which includes widows, orphans, unemployed and needy people, etc., that have no source of income at all.

Last year the families that were contacted did not call again to ask for provisions this year. This is the sign of true ‘masakeen’, people who do not resort to seeking help from others. We made sure that we reach “safaid-posh” people.

Help support this cause, keeping these Ahadith well in mind:

The Prophet (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam) said: ‘Whoever gives iftaar to one who is fasting will have a reward like his, without that detracting from the fasting person’s reward in the slightest.’ [Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 807, Saheeh]

A man asked the Prophet (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam), ‘What sort of deeds or (what qualities of) Islam are good?’ The Prophet (Sallallahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam) replied, ‘To feed (the poor) and greet those whom you know and those whom you do not know.’ [Sahih al-Bukhari, 12]

For individual list and costing please see https://docs.google.com/spreadsheet/ccc?key=0Avkb36ZZ5v2MdERrTmt0SGFzNGo0M2Vqd0h0NE0zN2c&usp=sharing

You may donate money, or any of these items:

Sr. No.

Item Name

Item options

Quantity

Price

Optional price

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Ghee Dalda 10*60*950

114000

2

Sugar Shakar gangh 10*60*60

36000

 

Khuli cheeni 10*60*55

33000

3

Rice Guard 10*60*185

111000

Zarafa 10*60*165

99000

4

Flour Kisan 4*60*480

115200

 

Punjab 4*60*370

88800

5

Lemon max long bar 3*60*32

5760

6

Dettol bath soap 3*60*45

8100

7

Tea leaves Lipton 1*60*435

26100

 

Supreme 1*60*370

22200

8

Dal mash Kisan 2*60*160

19200

9

Dal chana Kisan 2*60*80

9600

10

Jame sheerin 1*60*500

30000

11

Dates 2*60*250

30000

12

Baisen Kisan 2*60*85

10200

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transportation

30000

15

Eidi 60*3000

180000

Total Cost

682860

Please donate with all your heart. In shaa’Allah this charity will weigh heavily in your favor on the Day when there will be nothing to vouch for you ‘except’ your deeds.

Account number: 01161198701
Title: Zaki Imtiaz
Bank: Standard Chartered, Johar Town, Lahore.
Branch code: 0021
Swift Code: SCBLPKKXLHR

Follow updates about this project at facebook.com/page.z.imtiaz

For any queries, contact us:

Zaki Imtiaz: 0323-9555521

Umair Abid Shah: 0333-5551597

zakiimtiaz1@gmail.com

Disclaimer: The purpose of sharing these stats and the effort done by our team is not to brag about the achievements of Youth Club. In fact, it is to bring to your notice that it is not politics, votes or leadership, but the individual efforts of all of us that are required to bring the much needed change in our societies. Every tiny little effort counts. If all of us take out just a small portion of our annual savings for those less privileged than us, in shaa’Allah we will lay the foundation for building more stable and healthier societies built on love, trust and compassion.

Something we all dream of seeing, every single day of our lives.

JAZAKUMULLAH KHAIR!

(may Allah grant you all goodness)

Scientific Epistemology of Quran – An overview

Bismillah,

“These mullahs and molvis are always against technological advancements the world is going through. Why don’t they let us live our lives better?” asks a modern (pseudo) liberal. These liberals think that Islam is against the modern science and the technology that our scientists have worked hard. Just because someone doesn’t know what Islam really is, one shouldn’t pass such statements based on one person’s intellect.

Such liberals think, Islam wants us to leave our productive machinery from iphones and androids to the use of computer to new biological discoveries. They think, Islam wants us to stop thinking about the astro physics where every other minute a new universe is being discovered, a new star is observed and new galaxies are created and destroyed. They think, Islam wants us to leave this world of comfort and go back to stone age with respect to way of life as well as intellect. Well, that is the sort of arguments we listen every now and then in news papers, news channels and from all the pseudo liberals who doesn’t take the pain to study anything from the original sources. I feel, this is our mistake. We are unable to take the message out to them in the language and method they understand. But, this gives them no right to discuss (rather bash) anything about which they really don’t have any idea.

Today I write this article to quote some ayahs from the Quran, the book which Muslims believe that its the word of Allah the Creator of this Universe and the Creator of all what science studies, the book that is the not a book of science rather a book that studies the possibility to make this world a peaceful place to live. It is a book of morality, modernity, justice, peace, motivating its readers about scientific research and methodology. Read on if you don’t know how.

The very innate scientific method which is the base line of all the discoveries science has possiblly made is what has been appreciated in the Quran several times. Scientific method begins with the study of physical things through observation. Quran at various places appreciates this kind of thinking process which is preceded by observation and followed by critical thinking and hypothetical analysis. For example in Surah Al-Ghashiya of Quran,

88:17

أَفَلَا يَنظُرُونَ إِلَى الْإِبِلِ كَيْفَ خُلِقَتْ

Do they not look at the camels, how they are created?

88:18

وَإِلَى السَّمَاءِ كَيْفَ رُفِعَتْ

And at the heaven, how it is raised?

88:19

وَإِلَى الْجِبَالِ كَيْفَ نُصِبَتْ

And at the mountains, how they are rooted and fixed firm?

88:20

وَإِلَى الْأَرْضِ كَيْفَ سُطِحَتْ

And at the earth, how it is spread out?
This is an invitation to observe the creation of camel, how perfect it has been designed according to the climate of a desert, and an invitation towards the perfect starry sky, which withholds the beauty no one can deny. It directs our intellect towards the mountains how big, powerful and useful they are and towards the earth, how does it grows all that we eat and digest all that we bury. Its an invitation towards the study of Biology, Astrology, Orography and Geography.
Unlike science, Quran not only directs our intellect towards the creation of such things, but also towards the greater reason. Towards the purpose of their creation as well as towards their Designer, their Architect, Al-musawwir, Allah Subhana huwa taa’la.
Quran asks you? أَفَلَا تَعْقِلُونَ Then will you not reason? [2:44]
and أَفَلَا تَعْقِلُونَ Do not you then understand? [7:169]

Quran talks about the nature of light of sun and moon and directs our intellect towards the use of scientific method in this example as follows:

هُوَ الَّذِي جَعَلَ الشَّمْسَ ضِيَاءً وَالْقَمَرَ نُورًا وَقَدَّرَهُ مَنَازِلَ لِتَعْلَمُوا عَدَدَ السِّنِينَ وَالْحِسَابَ ۚ مَا خَلَقَ اللَّهُ ذَٰلِكَ إِلَّا بِالْحَقِّ ۚ يُفَصِّلُ الْآيَاتِ لِقَوْمٍ يَعْلَمُونَ

It is He Who made the sun a shining thing and the moon as a light and measured out its (their) stages, that you might know the number of years and the reckoning. Allah did not create this but in truth. He explains the Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) in detail for people who have knowledge.
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Ask yourself, what would be the end result of pondering over sun and moon?
Allah Himself tells us in the Quran that there are signs of discoveries, signs of knowledge, signs of a Perfect Creator all accross the universe as follows:

إِنَّ فِي خَلْقِ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ وَاخْتِلَافِ اللَّيْلِ وَالنَّهَارِ وَالْفُلْكِ الَّتِي تَجْرِي فِي الْبَحْرِ بِمَا يَنفَعُ النَّاسَ وَمَا أَنزَلَ اللَّهُ مِنَ السَّمَاءِ مِن مَّاءٍ فَأَحْيَا بِهِ الْأَرْضَ بَعْدَ مَوْتِهَا وَبَثَّ فِيهَا مِن كُلِّ دَابَّةٍ وَتَصْرِيفِ الرِّيَاحِ وَالسَّحَابِ الْمُسَخَّرِ بَيْنَ السَّمَاءِ وَالْأَرْضِ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَعْقِلُونَ

Verily! In the creation of the heavens and the earth, and in the alternation of night and day, and the ships which sail through the sea with that which is of use to mankind, and the water (rain) which Allah sends down from the sky and makes the earth alive therewith after its death, and the moving (living) creatures of all kinds that He has scattered therein, and in the veering of winds and clouds which are held between the sky and the earth, are indeed Ayat (proofs, evidences, signs, etc.) for people of understanding. [2:164]
Allah himself tells us in another location that there are signs for the people who have understanding, the people who have intellect, the people who can reason the reasons, as follows:

إِنَّ فِي خَلْقِ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ وَاخْتِلَافِ اللَّيْلِ وَالنَّهَارِ لَآيَاتٍ لِّأُولِي الْأَلْبَابِ

Verily! In the creation of the heavens and the earth, and in the alternation of night and day, there are indeed signs for men of understanding. [3:190]
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Which signs is Quran talking about? Which signs Quran wants us to apply scientific method on?
Quran invites its readers to reason the creation by thinking about them and by studying them, to reason the existance of a Super Natural Being who not only created all of this perfect stuff that science is still discovering but He is constantly handling them without any power on His part as He doesn’t get tired.
A true reader of Quran truely understands the kind of pondering message Quran brings as well as understands its scienctific epistomology and approach towards knowing the Creator Himself. A basic emperical scientist would understand that the Creator ( or a Supreme Being, if you but want to call) cannot be reasoned through emperical science as it is evolved through the five senses (sight, hearing, touch, taste and smell). Muslims never claim that Allah is visible or hearable or can be touched, or tasted or smelt. No, no one will claim that ever, because that is exactly how Allah is. God cannot be found with the emperical scientific data but He can surely be reasoned through His creation and little pondering over it (same basic scientific method).
A true reader of Quran, would REASON the Creator by looking at the enormous signs that are there in the whole universe, sometimes in the example of a new born baby and its knowledge of sucking, crying and watching, etc and sometimes in the reflections of his own creation and how perfect the system of body has been made. He would REASON that this cannot be created by rather chance. Chances never evolve perfections. Always remember that. Rather, an intellegent perfection, laws of physics, chemistry and biology, laws of astrology and all that which exist can not possibly a mere accident of chance some billions and trillions years ago.
Muslim scientists made major discoveries and inventions in the Era that is called the Golden Era of Muslims when Europe was in its Dark ages. I would recommend that you  Watch the video “1001 inventions and the library of secrets” to have the awesome idea I am talking about.
May Allah bless us with the knowledge of His Deen, and steadfastness on His path. Ameen
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This article has been written by Zaki Imtiaz who is a software engineer by profession. He can be contacted at zakiimtiaz1@gmail.com

CHOOSING A CAREER : QnA by an enthusiastic brother! – By Mohammad Ali

Man on top of mountain. Conceptual design.

Bismillah, in the words of Br. Mohammad Ali, as follows:

Asalam o alaykum wr wb

A good brother asked me a question related to career counselling. Its a very good question and there is a good message for everyone in this question, therefore im pasting it here, and also im replying this question here as i believe most people going through this age have such questions.
Question:
As salam o alaikum Brother Ali
My name as you know already is …… and i am 18 years, I am currently preparing for 2nd years board exams (Federal board ) and having aspirations to join either NUST,PIEAS or UET for Mechanical engineering.
As you yourself have done ME through GIKI and gone through the phase i am going through so i ask you to advise me over some issues i am encountering as you yourself might have tackled them out.
1.Time management and getting an absolute concentration when studying
( I can hardly sit for 2 hrs consecutively )
2.How to prepare for University admission tests . Will you recommend academy for it ? How you did that for yourself ?
Alhamdulillah i have scored 934 marks in Metric and 424 in F.S.c (Part 1) Physics and Maths are my Favorite subjects and Chemistry is hmmmahh Not likely my good hold .
I also want to tell you that my plans for opting higher studies is not only for getting a good job but also to be an example among the people that ISLAM is compatible with every aspect of life and modernization ; its not a barrier on the way to advancement . I also pray that May ALLAH give me taufeeq to shorten the barrier between the upcoming modern youth (Holding Secularistic and athiestic views etc) and the young scholars and daaee’s of today !
I would also make mention of that you are one of the person (though we dont know each other properly) whose advice i can not reject and whose words and moral teachings i always try to follow . May ALLAH increase you in khair and give you more taufeeq ! Jazakumullahu khairan !

Answer:

1- First of all, my advice to all such youngsters going through this age is to make their intention like yours. i-e to serve Islam through whatever beneficial knowledge you get. For ive witnessed that if the intention is to do it for Islam and the focus is Allah’s raza in the Hereafter, then all affairs become easy and whatever u do constitutes barakah. As Prophet (pbuh) said:
Verily, whoever takes the Hereafter as is his concern, Allah makes his richness in his heart and makes his affairs easy and this worldly life will come to him forced. And whoever has this worldly life as his concern, Allah makes his poverty between his eyes and makes his affair difficult and he will not gain from this worldly life but only what is destined for him.” (Ibn Majah. Declared as Sahih by Al Albani)

2- Secondly, avoid blind following of friends and peers. Do not go where ur friends going, nor do what they doing. First see through which field you can benefit Islam the most. Then just do an assessment of yourself and see your interests. Then discuss with experienced and mature people (friends and peers do not come in experienced and mature people).

3- If you ask me, i do not advise to do engineering. Because engineers, though enjoy a good social status in our society and people say wow an engineer, but in reality engineer is a white collar slave. The job nature of an engineer is too demanding and literally sucks the life blood outta you. I would advise any young brother to be a doctor, or go to teaching side, or social sciences (all leadership positions are held by social scientists), or administrative positions in public sector by doing css, pms etc.

4- Okay if you wanna do engineering, then atleast do masters in it and then go to teaching side.

5- Time management and concentration:
Its a great sign that ur thinking abt it at such a time and taking it seriously. Well brother, all my life ive been a very non serious student. But then i learned my lessons. Css taught me lots of things. I was a guy who used to run from books. Anyways, alhamdulilah, during preparation of css, i would sit for 5 hours continuously (and sometimes more than that) and read a book with full concentration. Thats how it all changed by Allah’s grace. How to do it?
(i) Try to be away from virtual world esp fb as much as u can. Only use when very necessary. Relax urself with nature and exercise (exercise helps a lot. Check this out:http://jworldtimes.com/Article/122010_Benefits_Of_Exercise). When you cut down ur interaction with virtual world, you’ll be amazed to see how much time u get.
(ii) When you study, kill all distractions. The best place to study is masjid. Trust me. Try it. Then library. Then a quiet room where no internet, pc etc. Switch off cell phone as well.
(iii) Its very important that what u read, u build interest in it. So read it with the intention that all good knowledge is from Allah Almighty and u must learn this knowledge and use it for good.
(iv) Make a time table. And try to follow it as much as u can. Organize urself. Keep your room clean and ur cupboard organized.
(v) Give challenges to yourself. Example : Today i will finish 100 pages of this book on every condition! Automatically u will see that u gain concentration cz of this challenge.
(vi) I do not advise continuous reading. 2 hr max is good, then take a break of 15-30 min. Do something refreshing. Then again 2 hrs. And go on as much as u can.

6 – How to prepare entry tests.
(i) Yes academy is fine because by going to academy u come to realise the competition when u see other students and this motivates u. Also academies keep taking mock tests (practice tests) so one becomes confident.
(ii) But i do not suggest academy for too long. Just learn the basics from academy and tats enough. Need not spend too much time in academies.

7- Some useful links:
http://jworldtimes.com/Article/82009_8_Ways_to_Keep_Your_Mind_Sharp
http://jworldtimes.com/Article/112010_Motivate_Yourself_5_Tips_to_Help_You

Let us fight with temptations

Try it out… Worth it!

By Br. Mugheera Luqman. Adapted from http://islamicbrothers.org/forum/threads/let-us-fight-with-temptations.178/

I was in my Hadith class when my teacher told us this story:

It was the time of the Migration, and the great clash arose between Muslims and Hindus. Many houses were burned, people got killed, families lost, women raped, children speared and a lot more. At this time of great terror, a young girl in her teens who belonged to a very rich family got separated from her family and had no place to hide. It was a dark night when she saw a Masjid and thought of taking refuge there. She entered into the Masjid and there she saw a room where a candle was lit. She saw a boy sitting there, a student of knowledge and in the dim light of the candle reading a book. She asked him if she could spend the night there. He allowed her and she sat in one of the dark corners of the small room staring at that boy while he was reading. Suddenly, she saw that boy moving his finger to the flame. He moved the finger into the flame, kept it there for a moment or two and when he felt that he cannot bear it anymore, he moved the finger and started reading once again. The girl sat there and saw him doing this all night within short intervals of time.
When the sun came out, her father and brothers came in the Masjid in search of her and found her safe there. Now before leaving, she came once again into that small room for paying her gratitude to the boy and asked him why did he keep on burning his finger the whole night which turned the tip black. He said in a low voice with his head down, “when you came at night and there was no one around, Satan got his chance and he started pushing my urges from the inside and I could not control my temptations for you and at that moment, I moved my finger to the fire which reminded me that if I can’t bear this pain for a single moment, how would I be able to bear the fire of Jahannam for eternity? Hence it burned my desires for a while. Whenever I was pushed from the inside, I did this in order to save myself from this act.”
She silently turned and went away safely with her family. Later when her parents finally decided that she is to be married, they asked her will. She said that she has only one man in her heart and that is the student who provided her the shelter in the worst night of her life. They went to that boy and asked him for his consent and he agreed and thus they were happily married.
When I remember this story, I remember one of the legends of Islam, Imam Ibn e Qayyam’s golden words:

وهذه سنة الله في عباده انه من ترك لأجله شيئا اعطاه الله او ذريته افضل منه (المنار المنيف ص 139)
“This is the Sunnah of Allah SWT that whoever leaves anything for Him, Allah Grants him or his descendants better than it.”

Have you ever left something just for Allah? Something you desired a lot and yet your Iman said ‘No’ I can’t, because my Allah did not allow me this? A woman or something else? Because if you did, then be happy, Allah will give you something in return which will be better than what you desired and if you did not, then I want you to try it out. Leave something which Allah doesn’t like and do it just for Allah and see what follows.

Wait a second… I remember one famous Hadith of the Prophet SAW, narrated by Imam Al Bukhaari – May Allah be pleased with him – in his Saheeh; a story of three men who were trapped in the cave and one of them supplicated:
“O’ Lord! You are aware that I have an extremely attractive cousin and that I was infatuated and obsessed with her. One day, finding her alone, I took hold of her and wanted to satisfy my carnal desires, when she spoke out to me saying: O’ My cousin! Fear Allah (SWT) and do not harm my chastity. Hearing this, I crushed my lustful tendencies and decided against the evil act. O’ Lord! If that deed of mine had been out of absolute sincerity and only for the purpose of acquiring Your pleasure, deliver us from grief and perdition.” Suddenly they witnessed that the huge boulder had moved away a little, faintly brightening up the interior of the cave.

I know my brother/sister in your heart, there is something, perhaps not a temptation for someone but might be something else which you don’t want anyone to know and you don’t like it either, but you can’t get rid of it. I want you to go to your room and talk to yourself and say it aloud to yourself, I’m leaving this for Allah and only for Allah, nothing else and He will help me in this. Do it and wait for the results.

وَمَن يَتَّقِ اللَّـهَ يَجْعَل لَّهُ مَخْرَجًا﴿2٢﴾وَيَرْزُقْهُ مِنْ حَيْثُ لَا يَحْتَسِبُ ۚوَمَن يَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّـهِ فَهُوَ حَسْبُهُ ۚإِنَّ اللَّـهَ بَالِغُ أَمْرِهِ ۚقَدْ جَعَلَ اللَّـهُ لِكُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدْرًا﴿٣الطلاق 3﴾
“And whoever fears Allah – He will make for him a way out (2) And will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allah – then He is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything a [decreed] extent. (3)”

May Allah help us out in such a times of worst trials! Ameen!

Hammer a NAIL in the wall; Anger Management

The other day I was listening to this beautifully story while going through an audio Tafsir of Quran. An efficient technique of anger management.

The story is about a father and his son. The father, in the process of grooming the boy, wanted to teach him lessons of personal leadership. So, he gave the boy a bag of iron nails and asked him to hammer one nail in the fence at the back of his house whenever he gets angry and frustrated. The boy took his father’s advice seriously and started practising it from that very day.

At the end of the first day, the boy realised that he had to hammer 37 nails in the fence.

“O man, this is really a bad number. Am I that furious?”, the boy exclaimed.

The next day, he was more consious of his anger and the number of new hammered nails were compartively less. In just a few days, he realized that hammering a nail in that fence is far more difficult, as you have to get and pick up the stuff and work on it every time you are angry, you know. So, he continued to grasp any opportunity where he could control his anger, resulting in lesser hard work and greater control.

After a few days, he finally had a day when he hammered no new nail. He informed his father about his success. The father was happy. However, there was still one piece of advice remaining. The father asked the boy to maintain his ‘no-anger’ phase and for each successful day, the boy must pull out one nail from the fence.

The father was obeyed.

Controlling anger was definitely a difficult job but once it was fueled with the temptation of making an achievement, it became easier. The boy continued to control his anger everyday and everyday he kept on pulling nails from the piece of wood. The day was not far when the wood was free from nails. The boy felt the satisfaction of accomplishment, deep within his heart, as he showed his hardwork to his father. The father appreciated his son and handed him his final words about the whole experience.

The father said, “Look at the fence my dear boy. Can you count how many holes are there? This fence is similar to our life and our anger. Once you’re furious upon someone and have hurt his feelings, no matter how many times you say sorry and apologize, you can’t fill those holes in his heart”, and he left his son…..thinking!

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It is narrated on the authority of Jabir that he heard the Prophet صل اللہ علی وسلم say:

“‏ الْمُسْلِمُ مَنْ سَلِمَ الْمُسْلِمُونَ مِنْ لِسَانِهِ وَيَدِهِ”

A Muslim is he from whose hand and tongue the Muslim’s are safe.

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P.S: The story is the product of my memory and its storyline might be a little different from the original

The writer majors in Software Engineering and is an amateur blogger and photographer. He may be contacted at zakiimtiaz1@gmail.com.

The “awesomest” Eid day!! :D

Bismillah,

Asalam o alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh!

Eid ul Fitr is the day of globalized celebrations among Muslims. Everyone have been fasting the whole month of Ramadhan with Allah‘s Blessings and that is why eating and drinking become the most favourite act of all Muslims on this Eid. 😀 We all visit our families, go meet friends and their is a lot of joy and excitement all over. The other day, me and my friends were invited for the Eid Transmission telecast recording at the amazing Pegham TV studios and we discussed many trivial matters. Even when Eid is an occasion of joy and happiness, a lot of young people (like me) get bored when visiting relatives and there is no fun, no entertainment in there and everyone wants to go back to the normal routine as soon as possible.

The brainstorming between us friends and the Pegham TV team generated a lot of ideas ranging from causes to cures. Criticism revealed that in order to enjoy, we try to make our own ways of entertainment that are not very much coherent with Islam. While discussing, everyone unanimously agreed on the concept of “Halal entertainment” and how it can be incorporated in our daily life.

“Halal” Entertainment? Are you kidding me?

Well, certainly not. Man is a social animal and he needs entertainment. I guess that is exactly why Eid (literally, celebration) is there for. We Muslims just need to find proper ways to it. Halal entertainment refers to alllllllll that stuff you do within the bounds of Islam and what it allows. I mean, just look at these 10 awesome ways to get entertained in the “Halal” way. Just read on to get some awesome ones specifically for the Eid day insha’Allah.

While searching for the content to write this article, I browsed on websites that were made by Masajids. I was so amazed how they’ve turned Masajids into community centers and all kinds of stuff is present there. They are well ecquiped with latest technology, projectors, table tennis, basket ball courts, cafeterias, lounges and the adoreable prayer halls. Their Masajids are not just used for five time prayer but it is their central hub, their town hall. The imams are educated in the affairs of the religion, keeping the guidelines of shariah strict while providing every possible way to productive halal entertainment.

Youth Club in Pakistan is working on similar lines. They have active Lahore and Islamabad Chapters Masha’Allah they have some awesome projects. Just look at their facebook album to feel the activism, education and brotherhood Alhamdulillah.

How do they make Halal entertainment  “Productive”?

The Masajids have many projects running at a time. They’ve got all kind of sports tournament going on for those who are sporty. While they play football, cricket or any other game, they know when is the time for prayer, how not to fight with one another, how to work in a team, how to conform with the teachings of Islam in our game. NO CHEATING, you know.

They have food distribution projects going on where group of friends are arranging food, others are managing poor families  who have come to collect food packages for them.

They have competitions like qirat and azaan for all those whom Allah SWT have blessed with a beautiful voice. They don’t sing songs, they recite Qur’an. They don’t know eminem, U2 and  Nirvana but they know Shatri, Sa’ud ash-Shuraim and Mishari al fasi. Listen to this recitation and have a feel of it.

For sisters, they have the same activities maintaining the best possible Hijab, where everything is managed by young girls and at on the other side its young boys and this is what I liked. No intermixing, no intergender communication. Beautifully managed. While the brothers handle outside affairs, sisters handle inside affairs. Sticking to their circle of influence, Alhamdulillah. Like Allah SWT has pointed out in Surah Al-Layl number 92, ayah 1-4:

وَاللَّيْلِ إِذَا يَغْشَىٰ
By the night as it envelops;

وَالنَّهَارِ إِذَا تَجَلَّىٰ
And by the day as it appears in brightness;

وَمَا خَلَقَ الذَّكَرَ وَالْأُنثَىٰ
And by Him Who created male and female;

إِنَّ سَعْيَكُمْ لَشَتَّىٰ
Certainly, your efforts and deeds are diverse (different in aims and purposes);

I want “Halal”, “Productive” entertainment for the Eid too. What should I do?

I am sure you have a lot of  ideas now but here is a small list that I have compiled with the entertainment/productivity factor explained:

Brothers:

  • Arrange a flood light outdoor game among the family members on Eid. Invite all family members and make sure you have good size teams (better put oldies in one and the young ones in the other to increase the X-factor :D). Youth complains a lot about generation gap, this would help both sides to minimize it.
  • On the joyful occasion of Eid, don’t forget your poor brothers and sisters. Take fruits, food, medicine, clothes or anything that you can afford to the nearby slum with your family and pay them a visit. Distribute things. Observe their living condition. It will melt your heart. Try to do something for them. You’ll feel elevated in your own sight. 
  • Replace mix gender gatherings with proper gender segregation holding small reflections on Ramadhan, their activities, projects done as well as future plans, and ideas on how to make our Ramadhan and Eid productive and useful for not only us but for the society we live in. Imagine you all are sitting in the drawing room discussing some awesome tips from parents, uncles, kids and all. You’ll see how this discussion is not just fruitfull but also synergistic.
  • Take a picnic trip to the biggest and most beautiful mosque of the city at any comfortable salat time (probably maghrib because it is offered aloud). Sit with your family in the masjid. Take your mothers and sisters with you. Let them feel the joy of salat in jamaah‘ (if there is a separate place for ladies to participate in the jamaah‘. The sisters must not be a trial for brothers on the very first day Shaytan is released). Let your females come out of the stress of work at home, their kitchen and their kids.

Sisters:

  • Go with your fathers, brothers and sons on Eid ul Fitr prayer. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) commanded us to bring them (women) out on (Eid) al-Fitr and (Eid) al-Adha, and to bring out adolescent girls, menstruating women and virgins, but the menstruating women were to stay away from the prayer, but were to witness goodness and the gathering of the Muslims. I said: “O Messenger of Allaah, what if one of us does not have a jilbaab?” He said: “Let her sister lend her a jilbab.” [Al-Bukhaari (324) and Muslim (890) narrated by Umm ‘Atiyyah RA]
  • Cook your favourite dish with the help of an expert (your mom, obviously :P). Cooking, urgh, its so boring, right?. That is why it shouldn’t end here.  *evil grins* Ask everyone who visits your house to taste especially the aunties and ask them to give you extra EIDI if they like it. You know, you’ve got to market your dish a little. 😛 Don’t forget to make it look good. You are awesome to do this sister, I am sure. Take some decoration tips from here.
  • Get all your sisters and cousins together to decorate your house for Eid. Make this Eid a little more special. In return, you may gift them a smal hina (mehndi) packet or you might help them with applying it decorating their lovely hands 🙂
  • Let them talk. 😀 They absolutely love it.

With this it comes to an end. I wish all my Muslims brothers and sisters a very very happy, productive and entertaining Eid ul Fitr. May Allah SWT make you, me and all our brothers and sisters among His pious slaves and bless us with the best of this world as well as of the Hereafter.

تقبل اللہ منا و منکم

Your brother in Islam,

Zaki

The writer majors in Software Engineering and is an amateur blogger and photographer. He may be contacted at zakiimtiaz1@gmail.com. The pictures have been taken from google, International Ramadan Photography competition 2012 and Youth Club Lahore.

Accept your mistake and renew yourself

Accept your mistake and renew yourself. Don’t be arrogant, nor ignorant, nor wrongly comprehend.

Analyse the depth, the truth of the message you are given instead of criticising the one who delivers.

Gotta act like a leader

One of the best qualities I noticed while reading the biography of Umar bin Khattab (May Allah be pleased with him) is when he was appointed as the Caliph of the Muslim world, he held himself responsible for every affair under his command. He assured the people that he’ll protect them and give them their due rights.

An extract from his biography goes as follows:

Just two days after the appointment of Umar as the Caliph, people started talking about his hard-nature, about which Umar feared. He decided to solve the matter so he ascended the pulpit and addressed the people.

“Were not these two (Muhammad[Last Prophet of Allah] and Abu Bakr [First Caliph after Muhammad] [May Allah peace be on them]) great men content with me until they died? Know that my hard-nature has become soft. But I would remain stern against the wrong doer and unjust. I will throw him on the ground whoever I found unjust. I will place my foot on his chin and will make him follow the truth and the path of justice. O people, you may hold me accountable for anything in which I fall short. I will spend your charity and war booty only in the way of Allah (In Islam, wealth is considered to be a sacred trust from God). Beware of me if I spend even one dirham in the wrong place. If Allah willed, I will keep on increasing your salaries and bonuses. I will protect your borders. I will not take a single step towards a path that would harm you. I will not appoint anyone on the border for a long time. When you’ll confront the enemy on the borders, I will keep watch and protect your homes. O slaves of Allah! Fear Allah and help me. ORDER ME TO ENJOIN WHAT IS GOOD AND FORBID WHAT IS EVIL. Help me by advising me in the matters of the caliphate. That is it, i just want to say this. I pray to Allah for our forgiveness.”

[Taken from Biography of Umar e Farooq By Dr. Ali Muhammad As-Sulabi published by Darussalam, pg 214-215]

This is how a leader is supposed to be. Taking up every responsibility and protecting the people. No matter who you are, a teacher, a parent, a sweeper, a student, an office bearer, a president or anyone else, you are accountable for your position. No matter where you are, in your office, at home, at university, on a journey, at friend’s place or anywhere else, you are responsible for all the matters around you.

You have to protect the matters.

You’ve gotta lead them to become their leader.