Writing Wasiyah – A Forgotton Sunnah

“I have seen several families fighting over the issues of Virasat (inheritance) and Wasiyah (will) after the death of important people from among them. Wouldn’t it be great if people would follow the commandments of Allah in such affairs? There would be no fights if the wealth of the deceased was distributed according to the law of inheritance laid out in Islam. If the deceased left a will explaining each aspect in detail, there would be no dispute over family issues. There would be so much ease in fulfilling the missed obligations, promises and other commitments of the deceased by his surviving family.”

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Balancing the equation – home chores

The best thing about getting married is partnership, isn’t it? Ask those who are married. Marriage may survive without money but cannot survive without the mutual partnership. Newly married couples enjoy their lives in the most halal way as Allah states in the Quran,  هُنَّ لِبَاسٌ لَّكُمْ وَأَنتُمْ لِبَاسٌ لَّهُنَّ, 2:187  they are each other libas (garments), covering each others physically, covering each other faults and helping each other coping up with the external damaging factors, subhanAllah what great wisdom. [1]

Whilst they enjoy, they don’t realize the change they have not only brought in their lives but also in the lives of their parents and home buddies. If we see it from the groom’s perspective, before marriage, he just have to take care of his family and obey the parents. After marriage, he has to take care of his wife as well, keeping in view that she has come to live besides all of his negitive and bad habits, leaving her home and parents, far away.

In such situations, there may arrise conflict between the husband and wife or between the wife and the husband’s family, difference of opinion in doing things. Over kitchen affairs, may be over children, may be over how to handle the home chores, how to arrange and schedule daily tasks, handling the servants etc. In such cases, everyone especially the bride must understand that every home has some ways to work and the norms are pre-defined. One should try to adapt those even if there is some discomfort.

In such circumstances, comes the most important role of the husband. He has to balance between the wife and the mother. Following are some tips and tricks that I have observed through different experiences from my life and from the lives of others:

  • Never say no to your parents. Especially if it doesn’t harm your personal life. وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حُسْنًا ۖ  “And We have enjoined on man to be good and dutiful to his parents”. [29:8] 

  • In case of conflict between wife and parents, listen to both sides carefully and analyze who’s right. إِنَّمَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ إِخْوَةٌ فَأَصْلِحُوا بَيْنَ أَخَوَيْكُمْ “The believers are nothing else than brothers (in Islamic religion). So make reconciliation between your brothers” [49:10] 
  • If there happen to be any misunderstandings between the parties, then you’re the man you can really solve them. talk to each party separately and clear the misunderstanding by explaning. they won’t go mad on you insha’Allah. Trust me, they want someone to listen.
  • Love your wife much and unconditionally without scolding her and explain the importance of being good to the your family and its benefits. the Prophet said: “The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.” [http://sunnah.com/urn/1262960] 
  • Love you parents unconditionally and lower your wings of humility over them no matter what. They are old now, they have no other choice apart from behaving they way they want to behave. They still love and care for you.  وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا “And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: “My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.” [17:24] 
  • Make everyone understand that things shouldn’t be based on the way they are carried out, rather they should be based on results. Let them sit together and decide the outputs of things on which there is a conflict, as long as everyone is agreed upon the output, they do not have to fight on how things get done insha’Allah. [Principle taken from the book 7 Habits of highly effective people] 

  • Forgive them and have no grudges. وَإِن تَعْفُوا وَتَصْفَحُوا وَتَغْفِرُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ But if you pardon (them) and overlook, and forgive (their faults), then verily, Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. [64:14]

May Allah make our homes among the gardens of Paradise and make our wives and children the coolness of our eyes.

[1] See Tafsir Ibn e Kathir 2:187 for details

7 Habits of Highly Successful BELIEVERS

Every Muslim will be successful on the day of Judgment when Allah SWT will judge them according to their deeds. On that day there will be some who will be given their account in their right hand, having lit faces and smiling, rejoicing, because of the path they took in their life. They traded their lives in this world for the life in the Hereafter for Jannah. Such are the SUCCESSFUL ones indeed. Some will be extremely worried, weeping, crying, frustrated and anguished while receiving their account of deeds in their left hand. They wasted their lives in this world and such are the real losers.

Allah SWT has beautiful explained in the Quran in Surah Mo’minon, not just about the believers, BUT about the SUCCESSFUL believers. Not only they passed the test but they succeeded with a distinction in good deeds. Allah says in the very first ayah

قَدْ أَفْلَحَ الْمُؤْمِنُون ,

successful indeed are the believers and then the 7 habits, these highly successful believers have.

First three habits are related to private victory and self purification. While remaining four gives us public victory, leading towards collaboration and shaping the society as a whole.

HABIT 01: Pray with Khashiyat

الَّذِينَ هُمْ فِي صَلَاتِهِمْ خَاشِعُونَ

Those who offer their Salat (prayers) with all solemnity and full submissiveness.


`Ali bin Abi Talhah reported that Ibn `Abbas said: “(Khashi`un) means those with fear and with tranquillity.”  Khushu` in prayer is only attained by the one who has emptied his heart totally, who does not pay attention to anything else besides it, and who prefers it above all else. At that point it becomes a delight and a joy for eyes.

When these successful believers stand in prayer, they imagine Allah’s Greatness that He is the Creator of everything that exists. The one Allah who is above His Thrown and they are so small standing on this very mat prayer expressing their griefs and sorrows who already knows what is in their hearts. They pray as if they are watching Him or at least as if He is watching them.

HABIT 02: Turn away from Falsehood

وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ عَنِ اللَّغْوِ مُعْرِضُونَ

And those who turn away from Al-Laghw (dirty, false, evil vain talk, falsehood, and all that Allah has forbidden).

turn away

Al-Laghw refers to falsehood, which includes Shirk and sin, and any words or deeds that are of no benefit. As Allah says: وَإِذَا مَرُّواْ بِاللَّغْوِ مَرُّواْ كِراماً (And if they pass by Al-Laghw, they pass by it with dignity)﴿25:72﴾. Qatadah said: “By Allah, there came to them from Allah that which kept them away from that (evil).”

A Successful believer turns himself away from sins, open and secret, he turns away from what doesn’t concern him, in which there is no benefit. He has a nice company, friends that support him in Deen, study it together, help the poor and needy, treat their families well behaved. He follows Islamic law in his business transactions and stand firm for justice in the society.

HABIT 03: Give obligatory charity – Zakat

وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِلزَّكَاةِ فَاعِلُونَ

And those who pay the Zakat .


In Islam, our wealth is considered to be the property of Allah. It is a trust we are given in order to test us how do we spend from it. One’s wealth is not be spent wastefully and one shouldn’t be a spendthrift. Through Zakat Allah not only established a complete socio-economic system but also established the basis of eliminating poverty from an Islamic state.

History is a witness over this fact that Muslims after the proper establishment of Islamic Khilafat used to carry their zakat in their hands to find someone to give but couldn’t find one. Why, because those people who took zakat in the years before were masha’Allah started their businesses and started earning their livelyhood. People no more needed it and wealth was in abundance.

A Succesful believers always calculate the right amount of zakat and give it to the most deserving people (as defined in the Quran 9:60). They don’t give it thinking it a burden but give it and thank Allah SWT that He gave them an opportunity to be wealthy and to help his fellow Muslim brothers.

HABIT 04: Be Modest

وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِفُرُوجِهِمْ حَافِظُونَ

And who guard their modesty –


‘Those who guard their modesty’ means who protect their private parts from unlawful actions and do not do that which Allah has forbidden;

The era which we live in has made fawahish (all sorts of unchaste things) extremely accessible and easy. You don’t have to actually find a hole to peep in someone’s bedroom and their private affairs, rather movies, tv channels, internet have it all. The believers are forced to see it even if we don’t want to. You sign in your email you have it, you browse the internet for islamic lecture you have it, no matter how much we try, its extremely hard to stay away from the dirty world.

That is why, a successful believer guards his modesty, literally. He makes sure he doesn’t get sucked up into a situation when he can’t control things. He does not wander in the market for no reason, he lowers his gaze, he keeps reminding themselves that Allah is watchful over him all the time. He keeps himself modest. Next habit elaborates a little about how to be modest and how exactly can he utilize his natural instincts.

HABIT 05: Utilize your natural instinct in a positive way

إِلَّا عَلَىٰ أَزْوَاجِهِمْ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُمْ فَإِنَّهُمْ غَيْرُ مَلُومِينَ. فَمَنِ ابْتَغَىٰ وَرَاءَ ذَٰلِكَ فَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الْعَادُونَ

Except from their wives or (the captives and slaves) that their right hands possess, for then, they are free from blame; But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors;


This habit is the post-requisite of habit 04. Once a believer starts guarding his modesty he needs to utilize his natural sexual instincts in a positive and a Halal way that Allah has prescribed.

Allah has forbidden; fornication and homosexuality, and do not approach anyone except the wives whom Allah has made permissible for them or their right hand possessions from the captives. One who seeks what Allah has made permissible for him is not to be blamed and there is no sin on him.

Many of our teenagers resort to masturbation as a way to release ourselves from the frustration that has been built and bad friends may pressurize their involvement in other illegal and immoral acts. Such brothers and sisters should know that Allah has forbidden such acts and should fear Him in this regards. If they have the means to get married and provide for a family than they should marry a pious believer. Otherwise they should fast and eliminate all sources of shameful activities. Parents should pro-actively eliminate the risks of such things in their homes and should try to provide their kids a healthy environment insha’Allah.

HABIT 06: Guard your trusts and promises

وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِأَمَانَاتِهِمْ وَعَهْدِهِمْ رَاعُونَ

Those who are faithfully true to their Amanat (all the duties which Allah has ordained, honesty, moral responsibility and trusts etc.) and to their covenants;


When they are entrusted with something, they do not betray that trust, but they fulfill it, and when they make a promise or make a pledge, they are true to their word.

A Muslim never breaks his promise. This is extremely important when it comes to public victory. Once you start fulfilling your commitments you’ll see a drastic change in yourself and also in the people around you. Your center of influence would drastically increase. Remember, keeping up your promises means reaching somewhere at the given time, attending to the requests of your parents that you told them you’ll do it, fulfilling your moral social and economical duties and staying true to the trusts that you’ve been given. A wise saying goes something like:

Action speaks louder than words

HABIT 07: Establish prayer

وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ عَلَىٰ صَلَوَاتِهِمْ يُحَافِظُونَ

And those who strictly guard their Salawat (prayers)


means, they persistently offer their prayers at their appointed times,

Allow me to mention the status of Jihad; one who participates in the battle for the love of Allah and for His Deen. If a believer gets martyred in Jihad, eternal paradise will be his. How big is the status of Jihad! Allow me to mention the status of taking care of one’s old parents. Prophet SalAllahu alaihi wassalam mentioned Jannah as the reward for taking care of them. But I want you to read the following hadith and PONDER:

Ibn Mas`ud said: “I asked the Messenger of Allah , `O Messenger of Allah, which deed is most beloved to Allah’ He said,

«الصَّلَاةُ عَلَى وَقْتِهَا»

(Prayer at the appointed time.) I said, `Then what’ He said,

«بِرُّ الْوَالِدَيْن»

(Kindness to one’s parents. ) I said, `Then what’ He said,

«الْجِهَادُ فِي سَبِيلِ الله»

(Jihad in the way of Allah.) It was recorded in the Two Sahihs.

SubhanAllah. The prayer is so light and easy and so much better than other extremely difficult and big things. SubhanAllah what a great reward. Why? Because prayer is the best way to connect to Allah SWT, the Creator and Sustainer of the Universe. Once a believer establishes his prayer five times a day, a do zikr proved by the Sunnah of RasulAllah SalAllahu alaihi wassalm, Allah removes so many minor sins from him without even repenting and doing istaghfar. May Allah make us establish prayer.

Once we implement these 7 habits, insha’Allah, we will be like what Allah explains in the Quran in the upcoming ayah:

أُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الْوَارِثُونَ الَّذِينَ يَرِثُونَ الْفِرْدَوْسَ هُمْ فِيهَا خَالِدُونَ

These are indeed the inheritors. Who shall inherit the Firdaus (Paradise). They shall dwell therein forever.

May Allah make us among the people of Paradise. Ameen ya Rab ul alamin.


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Quoted text are excerpts from Surah al Mo’minoon Ayah 1 – 11, Tafsir Ibn e Kathir. http://www.qtafsir.com

Want it! Want it bad!


If you want it
And you want it bad..

You’ll have it! (Insha’Allah)

Being Muslims, we have been taught one of the greatest lessons of being successful which is consistency in deeds. That’s where success lies in this dunya (and akhirah as well):

RasolAllah salallahu alaihi wasallam  said:

“The acts most pleasing to Allah are those which are done continuously, even if they are small.”
[Aisha: Sahib Muslim 783 b; http://sunnah.com/muslim/6/258%5D

How To Motivate A Demotivated Team

Published at saudilife.net

“NO one responds seriously to my emails and phone calls. I am always trying to motivate them to do their work either by conducting presentations and workshops on topics such as ‘Organizational Professionalism’ and ‘7 Habits of Highly Effective People’ or by taking them out on trips. But somehow things don’t seem to float smoothly. I feel if I won’t be in office, my team would only waste their time on Facebook or by gossiping about the latest mobile phone their friend bought. I seek a solution. Rather, I badly seek a solution. What do I do?”

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