Based on my lecture on the weekly halaqah at Youth Club Lahore in Dewan e Khas mosque.
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Fame, money, girls, cars, a huge mansion!
This is all you can ask for and more, right?
Some people had it all; and yet they were so dissatisfied with their lives that they ended it. And we’re no one to judge; we cannot say that given all this fame and fortune we would behave any differently, that is pure hypothesis!
So, if these are our yardsticks of success and yet those that have all this seem still to be missing something… Something whose void we fill in with drugs and porn and smoking and excessive socializing.
What, then, is that missing piece of life?
Here’re a few questions you need to ask yourselves: When was the last time when
- you were depressed?
- you failed in a test you worked hard for?
- lost your girlfriend/boyfriend (missing her/him much)?
- you were scolded by your parents?
- you felt sick of the lack of discipline in your life?
- you felt you are too fat to be productive, or too weak?
- you felt jealous of your friend who has a Galaxy SIII and you only have an SII?
All this leads to depression. Some of its prevalent aspects are: No love from family and friends, hating your day-to-day routine, no contentment of the heart and always being angry.
But when was the last time that you fought! What have you done to tackle this looming uncertainty in your life?
The problem lies in life itself. We couldn’t grasp the concept of what life really is and how to live it. Modern philosophy would have us thinking of humanity as physical beings that need to go on spiritual journeys to find the meaning of life, universe and everything… the reality is in direct contradiction to this.
We are spiritual beings sent on a physical journey by our Creator as a test. This world is VERY real, very physical! We exist here with a dichotomy of the spiritual and the physical and both of these components need nourishment. Neglecting either would lead to starvation; depression is starvation of the soul.
What are the steps that you have taken to cure this affliction? Because, clearly, depression is a disease of a malnourished soul! Allah gives His stamp of certainty in this regard:
“And whoever turns away from My remembrance – indeed, he will have a depressed life, and We will gather him on the Day of Resurrection blind.” [20:124]
“…So he who is drawn away from the Fire and admitted to Paradise, he indeed is successful. And what is the life of this world except the enjoyment of delusion.” [3:185]
Make your goal akhira (the hereafter), with a pure heart and intention, and see how Allah brings the dunya (worldly life) humiliated to your feet. It is only then that you will have attained true success. A Successful dunya then becomes a by-product of akhira.
7 Habits of TRULY Successful People
1. Correct your world outlook (spiritual beings on a physical journey)
Work on your Tauhid (Oneness of Allah); Understand what we mean by Tuahid and Oneness of Allah in every single Attribute and Name and Action and Ability. That there is NONE like unto Him.
There’s a great glad tiding for the believers when the Prophet PBUH said:
“None shall enter the Fire (of Hell) who has in his heart the weight of a mustard seed of Iman….” [Muslim]
If we try to understand Islam we would realize that instead of the five pillars, the religion actually rests on ONE foundation i.e. Tauhid on which stand the other four pillars (Prayer, Fast, Charity and Hajj).
Our outlook on the world changes dramatically when our belief in Tauhid is firm; We know nothing happens according to our best plans but by Allah’s plans that are best for us, we start believing in the act itself rather than the consequences (because consequences are in the hands of Allah).
2. Seeking knowledge
You spent half your life preparing to be able to make a living in this world; and spend the rest working for it. Does it seem logically right that we put in all this time for something that we know, for sure, will end in a heartbeat and not for something that we know, for a fact, will last forever?
How does that appeal to a rational mind? Of-course Allah is all merciful but He shows His Mercy to those who give Him His right. It sends a shiver down my spine to say this but your Lord, your Creator, Allah has only ONE right over you: Tauhid! And we fail to give Him that.
For that we seek knowledge; Tauhid comes in a package form. You understand Tauhid; you learn Fiqh (Jurisprudence) and Qur’an and Hadith and you strive hard to be the slaves of Allah.
And know, we’re NOT servants of Allah; we’re His slaves! He says die, we die; He says be and we are. A slave does not have another option BUT to follow His master. All of this comes with knowing your Lord, knowing that you don’t need anyone as in intermediary to reach Allah; no graves, no Jesus son of Mary, no deity with an elephant’s or monkey’s head.
Seek knowledge; learn!
“The best of you are those who learn the Quran and teach it to others.” [Bukhaari]
Learn Qur’an in any capacity, you have a computer, you have internet, spread Allah’s words in any way you can. Learn and whatever you learn, teach. Seeking knowledge and understanding your religion is the biggest blow that we can deal to sectarianism in our society. As Allah says:
“O you who have believed, obey Allah and obey the Messenger and those in authority among you. And if you disagree over anything, refer it to Allah and the Messenger, if you should believe in Allah and the Last Day. That is the best [way] and best in result.” [4:59]
3. Commit yourself emotionally
“By Him in Whose Hands my life is, none of you will have faith till he loves me more than his father and his children.” [Bukhaari]
‘Say, [O Muhammad], “If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your relatives, wealth which you have obtained, commerce wherein you fear decline, and dwellings with which you are pleased are more beloved to you than Allah and His Messenger and jihad in His cause, then wait until Allah executes His command. And Allah does not guide the defiantly disobedient people.”’ [9:24]
This is the emotional commitment Islam requires of us. Have you ever thought about it this way; do we really love “The best man who ever lived” (as we like to say so often) like we should? We cringe at the thought of looking like him, dressing like him PBUH…
Invest yourself emotionally and bring the Messenger’s character into every aspect of your life.
And talking of emotions; Cry! Cry in front of your Lord; He listens, TALK TO HIM! You don’t need to raise your hands to talk to Allah; talk to him on your way to school, on your way to work; on your way to the grocery store. Cry… Real men cry!
Drench yourself in اللَّهِ صِبْغَةَ: the colour of Allah. And what is better than the colour of Allah.
Trust Allah; stop being an apologetic Muslims; OWN your religion. Ours’ is a religion of Salah, as much as ours’ is a religion of Jihad as much as it is of Dawah and Qur’an!
“…And whosoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty).” [65:2]
That’s Allah’s promise; what else do you need! The Guy Who wrote the script says He’s got your back; just trust Him.
Work on your Taqwa; Strive in Allah’s cause; Listen to the Qur’an; Purge Haram from your life, one little thing at a time; Remember death.
We associate patience only with calamities and although that is the ultimate opportunity for patience; patience also needs to be manifested in times of ease.
“No calamity befalls a Muslim but that Allah expiates some of his sins because of it, even though it were the prick he receives from a thorn.” [Bukhaari]
5. Modesty: shyness, haya, etiquette
“Faith (Belief) consists of more than sixty branches (i.e. parts). And Haya is a part of faith.” [Bukhari]
Modesty is a broad concept and applies to every aspect of our lives; modesty is not just wearing a hijab and lowering your gaze (although they’re a major part of it). Modesty is when you show manners to your elders; modesty is when you spend no more than you earn; modesty is when you humble yourself before Allah.
Do you really think that Jannah will be a place of immodesty and that the women of Paradise will be roaming around naked (astaghfirullah)? The women of Jannah are clad in modest clothes; they wear a Burqa **add American accent here** so you might as well get used to that in this world; or your Jannah will be quite boring.
“Look to one who is lower than you, and do not look to one who is above you. For indeed that is more worthy (so that you will) not belittle Allah’s favors upon you.” [Tirmidhi]
Compare what you don’t have with what you DO HAVE. Every single thing around us is a blessing that is dearer than anything we can EVER do to repay for it. How can you pay Allah back for the sun, water and the skies!
The Messenger of Allah (sallaAllahu ‘alayhi wasallam) was sitting with a group of the Sahabah (RA) in the masjid and he said “A man will now enter [who is] from the people of Paradise.” and a Sahabi walked in. It happened again the next day, and then a third time. ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr ibn al-‘aas (RA) wanted to find out what was so special about this man, so he asked the man if he can stay over at his house for a few days. (He made up an excuse). The man allowed him to stay. ‘Abdullah noticed that the man didn’t do anything out of the ordinary: He didn’t fast all the time, he slept some of the night and prayed some of the night, and so on. So after the 3 days, ‘Abdullah told him the real reason why he requested to stay with him, and he asked what it was that could be the reason why he was from the people of Jannah.
The man (RA) couldn’t think of anything, but after a while he said “Every night, before I go to sleep, I forgive whoever has wronged me. I remove any bad feelings towards anyone from my heart.”
That is the consequence of a contented heart; Paradise! Practice contentment, practice forgiveness…
Religion requires sacrifice: Namaz and Riba (Interest) cannot co-exit; Iman and fornication cannot co-exist!
- Sacrifice; your time, wealth and efforts.
- Find halal ways to enjoy.
- If you’re having girl problems; GET MARRIED!
- Make the decision right now; change is a decision away.
“Verily, Allah has purchased of the believers their lives and their properties; for the price that theirs shall be the Paradise.” [9:111]
Now when Allah OWNS you, you are sold goods, who do you serve? Allah! No other way to success but to obey the Master.