Law and order are vital to maintain peace, justice and collective good in every society. Everything revolve around these laws and they are not supposed to be violated. They are infact the guiding principles that governs everything, rather the light in which all affairs are seen.
Similar is the case with you and me. Whenever you act on something, or think about something, you have a governing law, a guiding principle at the back of our mind.
Think about your response when you are angry at someone or your reaction when you are failed at some point in life. What is it that you like to do when you feel happy or remorseful. On what things do you like to spend your money? Think about your response to your son/daughter who has a problem that you can address. What is your routine? What are your priorities in life? Are you fed up in managing work with household activities, family and other relationships?
These are all such questions that you face in your daily life. Everyone wants to address them effectively and for those effective solutions, one need principles. If you haven’t think about such questions consciously then you might argue there are no principles for such things. One just have to react to the situation. Things can’t be re-done rather we should accept the good and bad un-controllable circumstances and try to bring the best out of it.If you say such, then you are a reactive person.
Even when you react, you have guiding principles at the back of your mind, but the principles have not been created consciously. The phenomenon that you react to the situation is itself one of the weakest principle that can be defined. Don’t worry, 75% people are reactive, in my opinion, before they get (enough) maturity in their life to re-script themselves.
In my last blog entry I talked about how people have different centres of influences. You may find people ranging from having money centredness to self centredness. If a person belongs to any specific centre, one would always gain some things at the cost of others things.
Out of all such centres, “Principle” is the best centre. A principle centred person may pick up all good things from different centres that are adjustable with his life. Some of the principles that I personally use in my life might include something from spouse centre, some from money centre, some from work centre and some from self centre. By combining all of them together to form new principles, enables you to create a balance in all roles of your life. You decide the intensities according to your own comfortability aligned with your personal mission.
The point is to imagine as many situations as you can, as many problems as you can think of and create a response while sorting them out on the basis of consequences each response will have. Once you start imagining, you will be able to control your life, your situations and your surroundings. Remember, you shouldn’t expect after reading a couple of articles that your life will just change like that. You have to work it out, day in and day out to develop these habits of personal leadership. You have to seriously work on yourself before you start experiencing these things in your life.
Every time you see a child doing something bad, imagine how would you want your own child to react in such situation. Then try to up-bring your child according to what you’ve imagined. Every time you have a argument at home, imagine the best way the argument/situation could be handled. Every time you are stressed out with work and home, try imagining activities that if you do/don’t do, can boost up your productivity and spare your time. Quit extra-extra co-curricular activities (time wasters) from your life to give proper time to your family and taking proper rests. If you are following my writings on personal leadership, you would better know that most of the problems in life are P-PC problems.
Here is my final advice to you.
Become self aware and re-script yourself. This is the key to personal leadership.